Ph.D. Psychologist and Author
I am fascinated by the way our mind works and our ability to heal and grow. I am always in awe of the human potential to overcome challenges and surpass even our greatest expectations.
Licensed Psychologist, PSY 20844
I conceptualize from a humanistic perspective, believing that each person has unique strengths and attributes that can be utilized during difficult times. If we can take what you're good at, what you know how to do best, and apply that to other areas of your life then things naturally fall into place.
At the same time, I also actively engage with you to address your issues and come up with concrete ways to move forward. When it comes to our actual work, I take an interactive approach. We talk through the issues and negotiate the best way to move forward. I draw on an eclectic array of tools from modern evidence-based treatments to traditional, time-proven strategies.
“Rom is very knowledgeable and full of great insights. I trust and respect his work. He would be a wonderful person to support you if you are looking for growth and healing.”
– Yelp Reviewer
“Dr. Brafman is amazing. I had the good fortune to meet him a few years ago and I got to work with him as a colleague for several years. His insights about students, and about the way they relate to the world, are brilliant!”
– Yelp Reviewer
My clients are intelligent and motivated people who feel stuck. My style is interactive, strength-based, warm, and honest. I ask questions, propose different options, check in with you to get your thoughts, challenge you to question some long-held beliefs–all the while being your biggest supporter. Sometimes we'll be on the same page and other times we'll discuss the way we see things differently. As I get to know you I'll be able to better understand what works best for you to tailor therapy to match the way you approach the world.
The Power of Our Psyche
Our brain and mind are the most complex living structures that we know to exist in the universe. What's even more fascinating, though, is our ability to use our minds to heal, bounce back, and grow stronger from even the most difficult circumstances and challenges.
No one knows exactly how our brain works or for that matter what is it specifically about psychotherapy that makes it so effective. But research shows us that when there's a good fit between therapist and client, when you find someone who is warm and real and on the same page as you, someone with whom you feel comfortable being yourself, therapy really takes off.
For me, as a psychologist, there's nothing more fulfilling than hearing back from former clients who remember our work together as a process that changed their life and helped them find out who they really are. As any seasoned clinician will tell you, that's the most rewarding part of being a therapist.
“In the years since we've worked together I have experienced ups and downs, but throughout it all I relied on the year of work we did together as a touchstone. 'I am worthy. I am strong. I am loved.' That's what I remember. And I took that with me and felt strong enough that I knew I was okay.”
– Yelp Reviewer
“Rom is the best psychologist. Period. He has wisdom and intuition that I've never seen before in any other professional.”
– Yelp Reviewer
Therapy That Works
We usually think of counseling as a place to receive support and talk things out. That is true, but what makes therapy really work is the active and meaningful investigation of what's going on inside: drawing connections and identifying hidden patterns, gaining valuable insights, and coming up with concrete steps to move forward. As a therapist I'll join you by taking the role of an active participant. I'll ask you questions, share with you my theories and perspectives about what might be going on, and we'll arrive at a working hypothesis together. It's a team effort. You're not expected to work through things alone.
Discover Your Greatest Self
The intriguing thing about therapy is that not only do you get to resolve the things that are bothering you, you also get to rediscover the deep strengths you have. People oftentimes seek therapy for some specific reason but end up getting a lot more out of the experience than they had originally expected.
“I just wanted to contact you to tell you that you helped get me into proper shape. Since I moved I've had other therapists, one of whom you recommended, but it was beginning with you that was the catalyst.”
– Former Client
“Rom is a warm, charming, and caring person, a great listener, and a source of great advice.”
– Yelp Reviewer
It's not uncommon for people to seek out therapy as a last resort. "I talked to my family, I talked to my friends, I even opened up to a person I just met, but I'm still not feeling like my old self." I like to ask clients, a few months in, "What if I told you, when we first started working together that you would be feeling this good and things in your life would be going this well? The reaction I often get is one of disbelief, "I didn't think it was possible. I would've told you that you were crazy."
One of my passions is writing and I have been fortunate to co-author two New York Times bestselling works in the areas of psychology and business. I always have book ideas floating around in my head. There's an interesting interplay between what happens in the psychotherapy process and what happens during the writing process: In both cases there's a general idea of where the exploration will go. But you never really know where the exploration will end up. Maybe that's why I'm excited about both mediums of investigation.
Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior
What are some of the irrational pitfalls that humans continuously fall prey to?
Succeeding When You're Supposed to Fail
What is it about people who manage to defy the odds and do well in their lives despite facing tremendous hardships?
Click: The Magic of Instant Connections
What makes us more likely to connect with others and the importance of community?
Please feel free to contact me to schedule an appointment or if you have any questions. I always enjoy talking with people and if I'm not the right person to help I'd be happy to brainstorm other suggestions.